Life Is Better When Nobody Knows What You Are Doing

 

There’s a certain peace that comes with moving in silence. In a world where people feel entitled to weigh in on our decisions, where judgment, unsolicited advice, and doubt are almost unavoidable, keeping parts of our lives private can be the greatest gift we give ourselves.

I learned this when I was juggling two worlds: working as an analyst in a fast-paced work environment at night while attending college during the day. It wasn’t easy. Sleep was scarce, and exhaustion was a constant companion, but I never let on. My colleagues saw me as just another employee grinding through the daily routine, unaware of the silent battles I fought to balance work and education.

For years, I kept it that way. Not because I was ashamed but because I understood how people think. As soon as people found out, they started making guesses, wondering if I was fully committed to my job and questioning my priorities. I didn’t want their opinions to overshadow my hard work or turn my journey into something they could freely judge.

The only person who knew was my supervisor, and for that, I’m grateful. Not only did he understand my situation, but he actively helped me navigate it, ensuring my schedule aligned with my studies. His support meant everything, and in many ways, his quiet encouragement made it possible for me to push through.

When I finally graduated, the surprise was evident. My colleagues and my manager had no idea that every graveyard shift was followed by lectures, exams, and countless hours of studying. Their reactions were a mix of admiration and disbelief, but for me, it was simply confirmation that I had done things the right way, on my own terms, without unnecessary noise or interference.

There’s power in privacy. When people don’t know what you’re working on, they can’t plant doubts in your mind. They can’t impose their fears, limitations, or expectations on you. They can’t discourage you from a path they don’t understand.

Some victories are meant to be revealed only when they’re already won. And when that moment comes, it’s all the sweeter.

I'm proud of myself. And I will always be.